|Tim and Carolyn recently went to a wedding together.|
|Carolyn with her pony Millie.|
Number One: Is definitely my faith in God. Gods Word is very comforting to me and knowing that God loves not only me but those I love and our children so much more than I ever could, gives me peace. Knowing that God knows the details of my life and the desires of my heart. That nothing happens without God knowing and that He works all things together for good for us. I know that fear is the opposite of faith. So when I start to feel fear, I try to remind myself that God can handle this and will. This is all a great comfort when trying to handle very stressful times and it builds my faith. God's Word is truth, it is He Himself and I can trust in His promises for me, my family and my life.
|A very bright rainbow that was over our farm for a good thirty minutes Wednesday evening.|
Number Three: Is to take one day at a time. Looking down the road to a serious surgery date or appointment can bring stress and anxiety. Also, times when a child is going thru a season of daily trying behavior.. You know, the one you think they will never stop and makes you dread your day and the next day and the next and the next...Those are times that have taught me to live in the moment and take things one day at a time. Sometimes on a particularity hard day or in a very bad situation, we have to take it a portion of the day at a time. I do mean this literally. When trying to handle a child's bad behavior or when a child is suffering, taking a portion of the day at a time, to focus on keeping positive, is all I can handle. Otherwise I would feel totally overwhelmed. There is nothing harder than seeing the ones you love dearly suffer, be depressed or cry, when you can not do anything to relieve it. Dropping all extras in our life, at those times and focusing on making the best of a short portion of a day, at a time, is best.
Number five: Try to keep a sense of humor. This really helps when the flu goes thru! Or when dealing with behaviors in my children beyond my control. Trying to keep things as light and happy as possible really helps. There is definitely a time for grieving and sadness but in normal day to day life, my family looks to me to moderate the temperature of feelings in our home. The happier and more upbeat I am, they will usually follow suit. My children know I can be just as silly as they can and often dance with them to silly music. I chase the youngest thru the house for a ticklefest and make goofy jokes, rhymes or songs up to amuse them as we drive or play games. Also, when I am feeling down...just being around children brings me such joy. They do say the silliest things and do the cutest things. They just melt me at times.
Number six is something I will mention but admit I rarely do. That is to stop what you are doing and have "you" time. Work on a hobby. Pamper yourself. (Yah, not happening but I hear it works for some people.) Or for me, it is just going for a walk or driving to a store alone, walking up and down the isles and reading labels. Even researching on the internet things I need to know to help the kids is relaxing to me. As knowledge makes somethings such as diagnosis, home therapy ideas and natural ways to treat things, so much less stressful.
I am sure there is so much more, but to me, these are the ones that came right to mind. Most of the time I have not only normal life going on... caring for and home schooling the children, running our home and keeping up with our small farm. But also many appointments and therapies with lots of phone calls to schedule and followup on things. Then many of our children's health issues I could get lost in worry about. If you are trying to deal with something stressful or have a stressful life, try talking to God about it all. I learned a long time ago I am not superwoman. I can not carry everything that is in my life alone. All of my strength and help comes from God and God alone. Try praying and handing it all over to God and reading His Word for encouragement. It does make a world of difference. The other above listed coping suggestions really do help so much too. We just relax, keep taking one step at a time and we get thru a day whether it is good or bad.
I am not perfect and have many times fallen into a puddle of tears on the floor when everything seems to go wrong at once. Only to have God pick me up and carry me thru the day, as that is the only direction to go, so He mercifully carried me thru it. Many times God has used friends and family to encourage me which heartwarmingly is a stress reducer. God is so good. So here I am again. Grateful and blessed. Encouraged by the outpouring of friends and family alike just when I need it. All the glory to God!
John 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.